Couples Therapy in Fort Myers, Florida
You love each other, but you stopped feeling like a couple and began worrying about your future together. At Healing Loudly, we offer couples and marriage therapy, premarital counseling, and discernment counseling in Fort Myers, Florida and virtually across Florida. We’re here to help you work through what’s getting in the way, reconnect, and figure out what comes next for your relationship. Book a free consultation today.
Relationships don't usually fall apart all at once. Sometimes, the distance happens slowly. Life gets busy. Conversations become about schedules, bills, kids, work, and everything that needs to get done. Before you know it, you are coexisting next to each other instead of truly connecting with each other. You know something needs to change, but you aren't sure what the problem actually is. Other times, you know exactly what happened, you just don't know how to move forward from it. Whether you are trying to strengthen an already healthy relationship, reconnect after years of distance, prepare for marriage, or determine what comes next after a major issue, therapy can provide a place to slow down and look at the relationship together.
When You're Together, But Still Feel Alone
Common Reasons Couples Seek Therapy
Feeling Disconnected
"My partner feels more like my roommate" You miss the closeness you once had, you’re too busy to make time for each other, or feel like you’re growing apart.
Infidelity & Betrayal
An affair or other betrayal can leave you questioning whether trust can be rebuilt. Therapy can help you work through the hurt, understand what happened, and decide what comes next.
Being Triggered in Your Relationship
Your partner’s words or actions can bring up feelings connected to what you experienced growing up or in a past relationship. You may shut down, become guarded, or have trouble trusting even when you know your current partner is not the same person.
Fighting in Circles
"Why do we keep having the same argument over and over?" You keep having the same argument without actually resolving anything.
Relationship Insecurities
"I'm scared they could be happier with someone else." You may worry about whether your partner loves you, feels connected to you, or will stay.
Not Feeling Heard
“You’re not listening to me.” You both feel like you’re talking, but neither of you feels truly heard. you find yourself explaining your perspective, but your partner still doesn’t understand what you need or how you feel.
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Communication
Learning how to express what you need, listen without immediately becoming defensive, and have difficult conversations without getting pulled into the same cycle.
What Healing Actually Feels Like
Safety
That means creating space where both partners can feel heard, respected, and able to talk about the things that may be difficult to say out loud.
Emotional Connection
Creating opportunities to rebuild friendship, emotional closeness, affection, and intimacy when the relationship has begun to feel more like a partnership of responsibilities than a relationship.
Rebuilding Trust
Working through the impact of attachment wounds, broken trust, or infidelity and beginning the process of understanding what happened, what each partner needs, and what moving forward could look like.
Conflict Management
Understanding the patterns that keep you stuck in the same arguments and learning new ways to respond when emotions run high.
Healthy Boundaries
Learn how to communicate boundaries, respect each other’s needs, and create a healthier balance within the relationship.
Should We Start Couples Therapy?
You don’t have to wait until your relationships is on the brink of separating before starting therapy. Many couples seek therapy as a last resort to save the relationship. Walking into couples therapy for the first time can feel like a big step. You may wonder what you are supposed to talk about or feel overwhelmed with the list of issues that have piled up over the years.
Therapy can look different for every couple and we can be flexible with whatever you need. You may need someone to help keep conversations structured and follow a plan. Or talk about what happened the night before and working through immediate issues. Some times couples have also been holding onto problems for a long time and need a space to talk about what they have been holding in.
First, we start by talking about your relationship patterns and being curious about whats happening underneath the surface of the issues. After learning about your experiences and what you want to work through, we give you tools to create meaningful changes. Together, we can practice new ways of communicating, interrupt familiar cycles, build connection, work through difficult emotions, and develop healthier patterns that can continue outside of the therapy room.
Types of Therapy We Offer
Couples Therapy
We offer couples therapy for people who are in committed relationships or married and want to better their relationship. Services can be in-person in Fort Myers, Florida or virtually for any couple who located in Florida. Book a free consultation with us today to get started.
Pre-Marital Counseling
Starting your marriage with intentional conversations about communication, conflict, expectations, finances, family, intimacy, and the life you want to build together.
Discernment Counseling
Sometimes the question isn't "How do we fix our relationship?" it's "Do we want to stay in this relationship?" Discernment counseling is for couples who feel uncertain about whether to continue the relationship, separate, or pursue couples therapy.
About Our Couples Therapist
Madison Humphrey has her Master’s Degree from an accredited Marriage and Family Therapy Program in Texas. She is a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern. Madison approaches couples issues with curiosity to find the root cause of issues and uses three primary approaches in therapy. Through her program she has received advanced training and is a Level One Trained Gottman Therapist
We incorporate the Gottman Method into our work with couples, using research-informed tools to help partners better understand their relationship patterns, communicate more effectively, manage conflict, and strengthen their connection.
Gottman Method
IFS is used to explore the different parts of ourselves that show up in relationships. The part of you that becomes defensive, shuts down, or desperately wants reassurance may be trying to protect something important. Understanding these parts can create more compassion for ourselves and our partners and help us respond differently to familiar relationship patterns.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Through Narrative Therapy, we explore the stories you have developed about yourselves, your partner, and your relationship. Sometimes the story becomes "We are just bad at communicating" or "We can't ever get past this." Together, we can look at where they came from, and create a different understanding of your relationship and what is possible moving forward.
Narrative Therapy
Frequently Asked Questions
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No. Couples therapy can be helpful for dating couples, engaged couples, married couples, and long-term partners. You don't have to be married, or even know if marriage is where your relationship is headed, to seek support.
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You can get started by booking a free consultation on our website, sending us an email, or giving us a call.
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You can reach us anytime via email (sarra@healingloudly.com) or by giving us a call (239-688-5478). We aim to respond quickly, typically within two business days.
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If you want to use your in network insurance plan. Some of our therapists are accepting Aetna plans.
You can use your out of network benefits if we do not accept your insurance. We would provide you a superbill that you would give to your insurance company for reimbursement for therapy.
You can also choose the private pay option. Depending on the the therapist, our private pay rates range from $100 to $200 per 50 minute sessions. The rate depends on the level of expertise of the therapist.
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The first session is an opportunity for us to get to know you, understand what brought you to therapy, and begin learning about the relationship patterns you are experiencing. You don't need to prepare the perfect explanation or have all the answers. We will start where you are.
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Ideally, both partners are willing to participate, but it is common for one person to feel more ready than the other. We can talk about your concerns and what you're hoping to get from therapy and work from there.
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Conflict isn't automatically a sign that therapy isn't working. Relationships naturally involve disagreement. Therapy provides an opportunity to slow those moments down, understand the underlying pattern, and practice responding differently.
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That's okay. If you're unsure whether you want to continue the relationship, discernment counseling may be a better place to begin. The goal isn't to push you toward staying or leaving, but to create space for greater clarity about your relationship and your options.
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Couples can seek therapy after an affair or other significant breach of trust. We can work toward understanding the impact of the rupture, creating space for difficult conversations, and exploring what rebuilding trust might look like.
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There isn't one timeline that works for every couple. The length of therapy depends on your goals, the challenges you're navigating, and what you and your therapist determine is most helpful.
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You don't have to arrive with identical goals. Part of the work can be understanding what each person wants, needs, and hopes will change. We can use that information to identify areas of overlap and clarify what you want to work toward together.